Imagethief is always scandalized when he sees international press
coverage of Singapore that mocks country for conservative stuffyness.
This is partially because deep down, Imagethief believes that, based on
his long
experience with the city state, he should have a monopoly on such
mockery. It always rubs him the wrong way --metaphorically speaking--
when people step onto his patch. It also has to do with what appears to
be a total lack of any deeper investigation of what drives and shapes
the way Singaporean society relates to sexual matters.
The problem with any international press coverage of anything having to
do with sex and Singapore is that it invariably falls into the trap of
relying upon the usual skin-deep cliches of prim Singapore. These
derive far too much of their portrayal from government policy and not
nearly enough from getting out into the trenches (or bars) and
seeing what's actually going on. Given how much time most of the
journalists Imagethief knows spend in bars, this is a shocking
dereliction.
Imagethief raises this issue because of yet another predictably one-dimensional story
on the predictably tightly-managed sex exposition in Singapore. Judging
from the name of the correspondent, this story may actually be written
by a Singaporean. Nevertheless, the usual formula applies:
Singapore keeps sex exhibition tame
By Fayen Wong Sat Nov 19, 5:00 AM ET
SINGAPORE (Reuters) - No nudity. No whips and handcuffs. No penis rings. No inflatable sex dolls.
Those were just some of the sex toys barred from display as
strait-laced Singapore opened its first sex exhibition under the
watchful eyes of the police.
Instead the three-day Sexpo 2005 offered pole dancers, condoms,
vibrators, sexy lingerie and sexual health seminars to titillate crowds
and excite the libido of a country consistently ranked bottom in a
global survey of sexually active nations.
Barred to anyone under 21, the exhibition is far from racy yet it is
seen as a milestone for the tightly controlled city-state that bans
pornography and has tight censorship laws that routinely snip nudity
and sex scenes from movies.
"This is really tame for a sex exhibition. But this is Singapore, so I
was not expecting a lot more," said Christopher Hedman, a 49-year-old
marketing director.
Curious crowds, mostly male retirees in their 50s, converged on booths
demonstrating use of a condom that comes complete with a vibrating
ring. Many whipped out mobile phones to snap pictures as erotic dancers
-- clad in midriff-baring tops, mini-skirts and three-inch-heels --
gyrated to pumping music.
Police and Singapore's media watchdog reminded organisers of rules
restricting display of adult toys and warned them not to promote
"objectionable sexual behaviours or lifestyle, such as sado-masochism,
bestiality, homosexuality, paedophilia and promiscuity".
The organisers, who spent about a year obtaining police approval to
stage the event, said the exhibition was not intended to mimic
Australia's Sexpo, which has autograph sessions with porn stars, strip
shows, bondage and love-making demonstrations.
Sexpo 2005 included exhibits from the Chinese Ancient Sex Culture Museum in Tongli, China.
Visitors peered at erotic paintings of love-making scenes, pored over
scripts on sexuality in ancient China and gawked at a curious
5,000-year-old artefact called the "Donkey's Saddle" - a torture device
used to punish adulterous women.
Director Kenny Goh said he planned to make Singapore's Sexpo a yearly affair and would try to push the boundaries gradually.
In an attempt to shake off its stuffy image and woo tourists, the
city-state's authorities are gradually relaxing social controls,
allowing bar-top dancing and recently lifting a ban on the sale of
Cosmopolitan magazine and on the television series "Sex and the City",
which had previously been deemed too racy.
There are a few things that Imagethief wants to remark on in this story,
beyond the desperate seediness implied by the demographic
characteristics of the audience of "male retirees in their 50s".
First, by what yardstick is it determined that vibrators are
permissible, but inflatable women are not? This sounds like an
indefensible synthetic-genitalia double standard. Is there a government
pamphlet or website that explains this?
Second, why display sexy lingerie as part of an exhibit in a country
littered with sexy lingerie stores? Imagethief has spent hours standing
awkwardly in these boutiques while his wife browses various lacy confections. (He rushes to point out that the payoff has
always been worth the awkward wait.)
Third, all "promotion of objectionable sexual behaviours or
lifestyle, such as sado-masochism, bestiality, homosexuality,
paedophilia and promiscuity" was banned. Given that whips and handcuffs
could not be displayed, Imagethief assumes that, in this instance, "promote" is used
synonymously with "acknowledge in any way", as you
could probably include reference to these lifestyles without attaching
any value judgment to them. Although handcuffs were out, it was OK to
display a device once used to
actually
sexually torture adulterous women. Presumably this is because you are
in no danger of being corrupted by witnessing it and immediately
running home to order one from the Internet.
Sliced another way, and sight-unseen, this suggests an
exhibition devoted almost entirely to reinforcing straightjacketed
traditional notions of sexuality (yes, that includes the pole-dancing).
Imagethief finds himself reminded of the sketch in "Monty Python's The
Meaning of Life" in which John Cleese, as a British don, deadpan lectures a classroom full
of English schoolboys on sexual technique, with a graphic
demonstration.
Did we, or did we not, cover vaginal juices?
One other thing really stands out in that story. Imagethief previously
remarked
on an AP story (the original story link is now dead) that also
discussed this sex exposition. That AP story included the following
line:
But restrictions abound: Cosmopolitan magazine can only be sold if
wrapped to avoid browsing by minors, and programs like HBO's "Sex and
the City" and "Six Feet Under" have been screened with cuts by the
country's censors. Singapore also outlaws oral sex and homosexuality.
At this point, a really important question must be asked (no, not about
oral sex--Singaporeans have plenty of that). Why is it
that every single story on this topic by every single foreign news
organization
feels compelled to remark on Singapore's restrictions on
Sex and the
City? Fine, granted that it is a witty and entertaining show. But how
has it
become the international yardstick for sexually liberated media? Can we
find another one, please?
Frankly, Imagethief thinks we can all agree that if it was up to the
Singaporean government, Singaporeans would reproduce asexually by
budding or rhizomes. In fact, he is sure that the Singaporean
government is working on just such a scheme in order to boost
Singapore's fertility rate, which scratched out another
all-time low
in 2004 at 1.24. It was a flaccid 1.07 for the extra-repressed ethnic
Chinese majority;
other, poorer ethnicities continue to make a better, but also
declining, show
of it. These are Singapore government statistics, so please don't
complain to me if you are offended. This is far below the replacement
rate of approximately 2.1. In
the best of all possible worlds, the government would be able to
control the rate of budding, or rhizome production, by adjusting the
composition of the tap water. Sadly for them, but fortunately for the
rest of us, it is not to be.
Several related factors seem to be coming together here (no pun
intended). Just a couple of days ago, Durex, a condom maker, released
its
annual survey*
of which countries are getting some and which aren't (and much other
interesting data, if the methodology is sound). Congrats to Singapore,
who, out of 41 nations surveyed, out-libido
only the shockingly
unmotivated and rapidly declining Japanese, and who come in well below
the average in frequency of sex. (It's the very last chart; keep
scrolling.) I should point out that I haven't read in depth on the
metholodology or statistical analysis methods used in this study. Given
that it's a web survey by a condom company, and not, say, a
peer-reviewed study in the Lancet, one must approach with care. But
let's go with it.
A birth rate that points toward eventual extinction (or, at the least,
cataclysmic ethnic shift); a national indifference to sex; and a
government with a repressive attitude towards frank discussion or
depiction of sexuality or sexual creativity.
There's only three dots here. It's not too hard to connect them.
Alright, it's really more complex than that. Of course Imagethief
would like to believe that the policy answer to Singapore's
problems is as simple as an island-wide p*rn-o-rama. Unfortunately,
despite my repeated letters to the parliamentary representatives of
my wife's GRC district stressing the need for such a p*rn-o-rama,
none has yet materialized. This may be because my wife's district's
parliamentarians include Lee Kuan Yew and health minister Khaw Boon Wan
(who's announcements have previously
been scrutinized
in this space), neither
of whom is likely to be receptive to Imagethief's
"outside-the-box" policy ideas. It may also be because they realize
that there are more complex demographic and socio-economic factors at
work, and a p*rn-o-rama alone won't solve them. After all, look at the
Japanese. They came in dead last in that survey --barely over half of
Singapore's score-- and they have some of the most lurid p*rn in the
world. So let's not suggest cause and effect here. In fact, the
government's approach might simply be another manifestation of whatever
social forces are conspiring to make Singapore an oddly sexless and,
apparently, reproductively sterile place. But the government's attitude
doesn't do much to help.
Imagethief has noticed something interesting about how Singapore
relates to sexuality at an institutional level. I used to give the
government credit for slowly loosening up. I had an arsenal of
things I would cite: The Boom Boom Room; the Neptune Room; relaxation
of the kinds of movies and plays we would get, and so on. And some of
this is valid, especially where adventurous movies and television are
concerned. But at the same time, the national discourse about sex
remains confined. Things like the Boom Boom Room, a drag show, and the
Neptune Room, a topless burlesque, and many of the other things that
came along were really ways to channel aspects of sexuality into the
most managed and sanitized forms. Harmless transvestite clowns are OK.
Actual homesexuality is taboo. The play
Shopping and Fucking, about relationship angst, is OK. The play
Talaq,
about spousal abuse in the Indian muslim community, is taboo. Bar top
dancing and the ridiculously cheesy Neptune Room is OK. Exhibiting
items that suggest that there might be alternative ways of viewing what
constitutes healthy sexuality, say a pair of fur-lined handcuffs, is
taboo.
Something else in the Durex survey caught my eye. Singapore also has a
high rate of unplanned pregnancy --the only area of fertility it seems
to be doing well in-- and a comparitively late start to sex education.
While I don't want to read too much into a study that is, after all, a
PR stunt, it is an interesting set of results, especially when
contrasted with the low degree of overall sexual activity reported.
Remarking on the pregnancy rate, an
article (proxied Google cache link - be warned) in Singaporean tabloid
The New Paper
had one quote suggesting that Singapore, as a city-state, was being
unfairly compared with other countries with a mix of urban and rural
populations; one totally baffling quote suggesting that easy access to
abortion in Singapore somehow made people more willing to answer
honestly about unplanned pregnancies in an anonymous survey; and two
quotes suggesting that exposure to "liberal values" via television and
the Internet might somehow be responsible. It had
zero quotes
suggesing that poor or late sex education (and anything after the onset
of puberty is late) or a completely stultified national discourse about
healthy sexuality might, even possibly, be involved.
What is worrying is that the cloistered official attitude towards
all things sexual creates this strange, Victorian duality. Everything
on the
surface is well-managed Catholic (or, more correctly, a mix of
Anglican and born-again evangelical)
sex-for-reproduction, missionary position only please. Everything below
the surface is frothing perversion. Imagethief, a son of San Francisco,
is, of course, a fan of frothing perversion, and can speak with some
authority about Singapore's own frothy undercurrents, which are
numerous. But I don't wish for anyone I know to get angry calls from
the government sexual-position-police, so I will withhold details.
Suffice to say, beneath its surprisingly pious exterior, it's got a
blazing kinky streak.
Instead of getting into that myself, I will extend a tip of the hat to my good friend and
ex-Sembawang Media colleague, Singaporean journalist Gerrie Lim. Gerrie
has forgotten more about sex in Singapore than I or anyone in the
government has ever known. This is not because of his own lifestyle
(well, it may be, but I don't wish to know that), but because he is the
author of an indispensable investigation into such matters,
Invisible trade: high class sex for sale in Singapore.
Admittedly, this concerns itself with one particular aspect of
Singapore's suppressed sexuality. But there are clearly many more
avenues to be investigated, and I can think of no one better equipped
--intellectually speaking-- to investigate them than Gerrie. It's a
tough job, but somebody's got to do it. Gerrie, you and I will speak about this next time I am back in Singapore.
Meanwhile, I know that wire services have certain formats and
standards
to adhere to, and they are not generally the venue for deep, insightful
reporting. Nevertheless, it would be interesting to see some of these
stories that invoke Singapore's sexual stuffiness peeling the
metaphorical covers back
just a little bit more. Behind the gags and the cliches about
censorship and Sex in the City, this is a society with real issues
about how it relates to sexuality. There are some really interesting
articles to be written about that. Where are they?
Note: Thanks to my old Beijing walking partner, Dave Hull, for
the Reuters story. Dave is now stranded back in Santa Barbara. Sorry.
But it's probably more sexually active than Singapore, at least.
* Yes, it's PR.